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Theme number seven for She’s Taylored – so crazy! If you’re new here, each month we choose a study topic and we look to scripture to get God’s perspective, we hear from a guest, and I share some of my personal experiences with it. So far we’ve studied identity, joy, hope, gratitude, gifts, and freedom. Last month, I started incorporating a follow-along bible study. These studies are really simple and meant to dig a little deeper and create some action behind the topic. My ultimate goal is that by the end of each month you’ve got a better understanding of each topic and that you’re closer to God.
This month we’re studying patience.
Now before you write off patience as a boring topic, let me explain why I chose it. “Patience is a virtue,” right? We’ve all heard it. Besides patience being something that is obviously valuable, I think someone’s level of patience is a gateway into their heart. Meaning, I think that the amount of patience someone does or doesn’t have reveals a lot about them.
We all get impatient – it just happens. People are terrible drivers, children test our nerves, and no one likes waiting for their food for more than 30 minutes. It’s just a thing. Life doesn’t give us the luxury of seeing the full context of every moment we experience. We only have our own perspectives to guide our behavior and sometimes if our perspective isn’t aligned with God’s, we react with impatience. Depending on how unaligned our perspectives are, our impatience can be shown through anger, harsh words, or judgment.
I’ll be honest, patience seems like a “duh quality.” Like, we’re obviously not supposed to snap at customer service, throw up our hands when someone cuts us off, or get defensive when someone in authority tells us no. So the easy remedy seems to be us just not acting like brats, right? Wrong. Patience is a heart thing. Patience is a direct reflection of how we feel about God. A study of patience will force us to ask ourselves how much we trust His will for us. It will force us to ask ourselves if we even trust that He’s in control. It will also require us to look at our dreams and see if they’re God’s dreams and if our impatience in a season of waiting is simply because our dreams are selfish.
Another part of patience that we’ll look at is the obvious part: the way it makes us act with our knee-jerk reactions. When you have to ask someone to repeat themselves for the third time, when you tell your little one to stop doing something, when customer service just can’t seem to help you. Those little moments reveal so much about us. What’s your gut reaction? Is it anger and frustration? And how quickly does it take you to get mad about those things?
Another side of patience that we’ve all experienced is the seasons of waiting. I don’t mean waiting in a drive-thru line, I mean those seasons of life when God is telling you, “Not right now.” Sometimes that means waiting for a job, a relationship, or even a baby. Those seasons are hard to interpret: is God telling me to work harder or is He telling me to stop going in a certain direction or is He simply telling me to just coast? We’re going to study scripture and learn how to learn how to confidently know what God is telling us.
The last part of patience that we’ll study is the fruit that we can produce through it. One of the most obvious ones is grace. By showing patience in situations we get the opportunity to also show grace. We can also show kindness, peace, and of course, self-control. We’re going study the amazing results that can come from such a “simple” practice.
So maybe patience isn’t so surface-level after all? I think each of us gets to practice patience every day and I think it can result in big blessings. I hope you’ll study along with me and allow your heart to maybe soften in some places. I’m praying for big things this month!
Thanks for reading and I’ll see you tomorrow!
– Caitlin –