Happy Monday and Happy Galentine’s Day!
I wasn’t planning on writing this post, but felt a sudden surge of inspiration to do it and honestly just a need to thank the women in my life.
I would truly be useless without the ladies that have surrounded me. I have a strong mother who raised me to believe that strong friendships with your girlfriends weren’t optional. She raised me to know that someday a man would come into my life and he’d be my very best friend, but in order for that friendship to thrive, I needed my girls. She was right – I have my best friend. He’s a hot ginger who loves me so dang well, but I know that Ryan is beyond thankful for the girls in my life. It goes the other way as well – his guy friends are his crew and I wouldn’t interfere with the crew for anything! (Except when I need to be annoying and bother them just a little bit.)
But my girls. Oh my girls. Truly from the beginning of my existence, I’ve needed them and I’ve been surrounded by them. I have a strong mother, strong grandmothers, strong aunts, strong cousins, and the strongest sister. They weren’t an option. They were the only choice and the only choice I wanted to have.
Fast forward to high school when I was really old enough to know the value of choosing your friends wisely. Good grief I had the best time in high school because of these girls. I don’t need to name names because you know who you are. You know how formative you were in my life and how those friendships will have my heart forever. I love you. #CCC <— not a type-o. They get it.
Anyone who has lived with your best friends, either in college or not, you know how insanely precious it is. The girls I lived with in college are still my lifeline to this day and know every detail of my life. As if living with those girls wasn’t enough, I have college girl friends that I still can’t quit. Thank you for the endless girls nights, the crisis’ that you helped me through, and the self-imposed weight gain from Chuy’s creamy jalapeno. You taught me how to be more responsible, how to lead, and how to decipher what really mattered in life. I grew up in college and into the woman I am now and that’s because of all of you. I love you.
Now that I’m in Dallas and an “adult”, I’ve been blessed by some new friendships that I would never have seen coming. When you work full-time and are married, the time you have to spend with other people is precious and I can’t get enough of the girls I have here. Fill alllll the extra time please. I’m still growing up and learning how to do adult life in Dallas and would be useless without the handful of ladies here. I have real community in you and you inspire me and challenge me to be a better wife and friend. You fill in when a crisis comes up and you love me through it and I’ll never be able to repay you. Goodness I love you.
All of this to say – find your tribe.
Find your girls. God created us to be in community with people who challenge us and love us through our battles. Thank the women in your life often. Don’t isolate yourself – all that does is leave room for the wrong people to swoop in (including Satan). Women are hard. There are a lot of feelings involved, but there’s also resilience and strength. Find the women who will love and indulge you but also challenge you and question you. Find women who love you enough to value your eternal life more than this earthly one – they’re the ones who know what is at stake. They’re the ones who know your true worth.
To the girls I don’t get to see as much as I would like – Your friendships are precious to me. I’m still rooting for you and with you. And I’m still very much obsessed with you, even from afar.
To the girls who I get to see often and are close enough to do daily life – I value your friendships. They are absolute gold to me. I need you and I love you. Thank you for walking through the sunshine and the mud with me. Bachelor tonight?
To the women in my family (including the newer edition of my wonderful in-laws) – my lifelong cheerleaders who make my heart ache with gratitude as I write this – you are such a large portion of my heart. Just thank you.
My heart is bursting with gratitude today. If you don’t have a Valentine this year, I’d bet you have some Galentine’s who deserve some love.
Thank you for reading!
– Caitlin –