While the husbands are away the wifey’s will play! Or just have a slumber party.
This year, my gift to my husband for his birthday was a surprise guys trip to Austin with a bunch of his best dudes and the wives obviously couldn’t just sit around so we had a slumber party and the cutest girls day here in Dallas. We were missing a few of the wives but it was such a blast – these girls are just a straight up blessing. We’ve all known each other and our husbands for awhile so these girls are framily.
We ate a massive dinner on Friday at Yard House in Addison – have you been?! Two of us had the grilled cheese and tomato soup and we’re still not over it. We spent the next day doing all of the girly things – Starbucks, pedicures, and lunch at La Madeleine. It was all so girly and so needed.
And the best part of it? Just talking with each other. Sharing things. Asking advice. Encouraging. Affirming. We parted ways Saturday afternoon and I left feeling so thankful.
Having community with women in the same stage of life as you is so powerful and trying to go through life without it is dangerous. If you really want to thrive – in any circumstance – you need those people next to you. AKA you need community, sister!
Community is hard, though. It can be awkward, uncomfortable, and frustrating. All three of us girls admitted to struggling to open up to other women. Genuine community takes a lot of work and time. You can’t force it and you can’t fake it – over the years I’m sure I’ve done both with no success.
But wow. When you find it, when you cultivate it – it’s so precious and empowering. Don’t let it go.
So here’s the hard truth (that I’ve learned the hard way):
We were created to be in community. God does not want you to be alone. He wants you in community that prioritizes accountability. We cannot best manage difficult circumstances alone. If you believe that you’re at your best without Godly community and accountability – you’re mislead and you’re missing out on one of the biggest gifts.
If you find yourself in a weird inbetween without community, don’t stress. Maybe you just moved somewhere new, got married, started school, just got out of a relationship, or changed churches, whatever. You can take a step towards community today!
The first place to start is with prayer. Ask God to bring community to you and ask Him to make you bold. I picture God high-fiving some angels when He gets those prayers. Your local church is a great place to go next. If you aren’t plugged in somewhere – reach out to a friend or someone older you trust to help you. The most important part is taking action. Genuine community will rarely happen organically. Everyone involved has to be willing to try – even if at first not a lot.
Just try. Send that text. Go to the bible study. Get somewhere alone and pray – even if it’s been awhile. I think you’ll find that everyone else you meet feels that weird combo of nervousness and eagerness.
How good and pleasant it is
when God’s people live together in unity!
Let’s be bold together this week – have a wonderful Monday!
– Caitlin –