Happy Friday, Y’all!
Most people who know me would agree that a huge part of my personality and mannerisms come from my mom – same booming laugh, same reactions, same brain a lot of the time – which you can imagine is really fun or really annoying to be around ha! The older I get the more I’m even starting to look like her and if you’ve seen her then you KNOW I’m pumped. There are so many things about me that I have to credit to my dad, though. He gave me his eyes, his gentleness, his overall temperament, his Type A tendencies, and his ability to look at most situations with mercy and grace.
In classic dad style, my dad doesn’t like attention and doesn’t like to make a big fuss out of birthdays, Father’s Day, or anything to do with him. He’s actually quite repellant of those things but raised two girls that are super obsessed with him so he loves anything that lets him hang with his girls (including Mama and all of our animals that ended up being female too, sorry). From an early age, he didn’t have time to be the center of attention. He’s the oldest of five children. YES, FIVE. My grandparents are champions.
He was born and raised in Scotland and is the coolest, most unique person. He’s an actual genius and the hardest worker so when he moved to the States after getting his masters, he was killing it in every way. His future got even better when he met and married my mama and jet-setted her off to Egypt and Germany. They lived abroad, traveled the world, and raised two little ladies and we eventually settled back here in Texas. Now he’s the mega-technology-mastermind behind a tech company, super involved in church, and no longer surrounded by females – he gained two sons along the way! He’s been one of the main sources of any wisdom or guidance I’ve ever received and today I thought I’d share some of the things he’s instilled in me. This one is for you, dad!
“Don’t put off tomorrow what you can do today”
He didn’t make up that phrase obviously, but it for sure applies to him! My mom always says, “The energizer bunny doesn’t have ANYTHING on your dad!” He literally never stops moving. He’s the most productive human and sometimes part robot. His work ethic is insane and seriously translates into each part of his life. This affects the way he handles problems, too. If he’s faced with something difficult he’s always prone to action. At least one small action towards a resolution. If we couldn’t solve a math problem or didn’t understand a concept in something, he’d tell us to just take a stab at it. Just try. Make a small effort, but definitely do something. This also translates into areas like his health and fitness. His self-discipline is unparalleled. He runs consistently, eats the same healthy things consistently, and drinks his green tea consistently. Sometimes he works too hard and exhausts himself, but another important lesson he taught us was that coffee was pretty much the cure for all things.
Be yourself and no one else
With my dad’s heritage and upbringing, he’d never be your average dad. More than that – he’s just a different guy in general. He’s so unique in the way he thinks, works, and looks at life. It’s what makes him so amazing. He’s completely unabashed by what “normal” is and certainly could not care less about what society says is “normal.” He’s so steady and secure in who he is as a husband, dad, and believer. He’s so deeply rooted in a biblical life view and has been a constant rock for our family because of it.
*getting weepy now*
As a girl who was consistently impressionable growing up, he constantly reminded me that I was exactly who I was supposed to be and that anything “weird” or different” about me was perfect – including my wild + curly hair which he still loves to this day. This perspective is what makes him one of the least judgemental, crude, or condemning people I know. He can genuinely look a person and just see a person – he’s completely unaffected by race, clothing, or appearance in any way. In his eyes, no one is unworthy of mercy, justice, or grace. It’s really incredible.
Give everything you have and then give more
My dad has willingly donated money, cars, computers, his time, his handy-man skills, etc. for as long as I can remember. He’s such a giver when he sees someone in need. He loves to see a success story. He loves to see people build their skills, talents, and resumes and if he can offer advice on any of it- he will. He gets genuinely jazzed when other people succeed or make any kind of progress in life. More than just providing means or time, he gives 100% in his effort. He never does anything at less than 150% and raised us to do the same. (Note: he was very gracious when my college years averaged out at like 75% – thanks, dad sorry dad.) He raised us to believe that if there was anything to be done for someone or something, that is it was our obligation to do it. And to then follow up with more help.
Above all else, honor the Lord
My dad is an engineer so you can imagine how his mind works: analytical, logical, things are typically black & white. He’s so smart and practical and yet so loving and compassionate. His black and white attitude is what gives him a righteous perspective. Things are either right or wrong, glorifying to God or not. This attitude in combination with a really sweet and compassionate heart makes for one heck of a dad. Whether it was through sports, school, or friendships – we were to honor God. If we messed up, he showed us loving discipline. If he made a mistake, he would always come apologize. He’s a dad of girls so I know he ended up apologizing wayyyy more than he needed to – poor guy! But wow the best.
Dad, I hope you know how proud I am to be your daughter. Whether we’re kayaking or hiking up a Scottish mountain (AKA me slowly passing away) or drinking coffee and talking theology – I soak up every second of it and adore it. You created a beautiful life for us and I just get more grateful for that as I get older. Today (and every day!) you are so loved and appreciated. You’re my hero – forever and always.
Now everyone go hug your daddies!
– Caitlin –